Many people ask me how I have managed to stay with my boyfriend for so long. I use to get thrown off by the question but I realize why it can be surprising. People are extra shocked when they learn that we do not have any kids even though we have been together for almost 7 years now. I usually get offended when people make it seem like you need to have kids in order to stay in a committed relationship lol. For those who care and are curious about my relationship then this blog post is for you. If lovey dovey things aren’t for you then idk what to tell ya but I got my tea, took a couple dabs and I am reading to type away. Let me take it to the beginning, we met in high school and started dating when I was in 10th grade. Soooo much has happened since (obviously) but I will stick to the main points. Like in all relationships it is very difficult to communicate correctly especially when you are just 16 & 17 years old. Growing up together figuring out life while finding yourself can add a lot to a relationship. Personally I feel that in order to make it work you must understand that you have made a commitment with that person to start a relationship where you are going to love that person, get to know them better, trust and respect them etc. As time passed by we learned to communicate our feelings better because communication really is key. We have clicked since day one, our personalities bring out the best in one another and I feel like he balances me. I am very into astrology and his sign’s characteristics are very appealing to me, I was always drawn by his drive and ambition. He had a charm to him which made me really want to get to know him. When I did it was a wrap, he was like an onion waiting for me to peel back the layers one by one. The deeper I went the harder I fell. He is indeed my best friend, he supports me in everything I do. We make such a great team and I know that together we can build something great. I can’t sit and give advice on relationships and tell you guys what works and what doesn’t because I think everyone is different. Every relationship is different, there is always 2 sides 2 perspectives to every story. That’s what makes love so beautiful. It is so complicated at times painful yet so pure and beautiful. You learn to love a person for who they are inside, for their mind for their heart. Their slang and habits begin to rub off on you and vice versa. It’s always the little things that matter most. I hold the late night car rides where we just sesh and talk about life so close to my heart. This guy has done so much for me things that I would never imagine he would do he can be a real romantic and I love it. I also learned to keep our relationship private. Just because I don’t Instagram or snapchat a date doesn’t mean it did not happen. I love to give our relationship the time, energy and attention I believe it deserves and some things are better when kept to yourself. He is a very private person, he has no social media and is very humble always to himself. I see him as my mentor because I learn so much from him, we learn so much from each other. On a spiritual level and on an intellectual level. Relationships are hard especially in this generation but if you have a person who in your heart you know is worth fighting for, let that person know how you feel because tomorrow is never promised. Love your partner like there is no tomorrow and never go to bed mad. Life is too short to not love. Love is the best type of high and he is my biggest addiction. I know my soul will find his again in every lifetime, a connection like the one we have cultivated comes around once in a lifetime. The 16th always gets me in my feelings so I thought it was a perfect topic to share today since it is our monthsary! I always make fun of couples who count months yet I do it 6 years and 10 months later haha
Thanks for vibing butterflies !
Xoxo
Mj